As long as your partner isnt abusive toward animals, he or she doesnt have to let Fido lick him/her on the face or put up with Kittys constant scratching. This year we are planning to move to a rural area. she even calls the dog on sometimes. But if I worked full time we would not have taken the dogs so how important can they be? People who defend the animal to the bitter end kill me. The dog has to constantly be in his lap, and he is always calling for it. Hes well trained but has been acting out whenever my husband is involved. Going to the kitchen, having a snack or a meal he is by my side begging at any opportunity he gets. If you can spot out the exact cause with the help of a vet, the remedy process will be much easier. I agree its not an issue about being rude to an animal its about treating your dog like a dog. You can judge a mans true character by the way he treats his fellow animals. -Paul McCartney. He pays more attention to the dog than our baby. I didnt get any attention except when he asked whats for dinner. and please, dont try to say my dog doesnt smell or have fleas etc. For some reason it finally got through to him and said he was sorry for everything that has happened and told me that at the end of the day I am more important than a dog and that he never wanted me to feel alone. I dont even understand why she wants to keep it, she forgets to feed/water it at times. Im worried how that will affect relationship. As for your girlfriends nightmare of a dog???? He just puts the bulldog on a pedestal and it causes lots of issues and arguments. Why? If you really dont have sufficient time to set aside your canine friend, check in your neighborhood. I asked him to get rid of her more than once. My baby is 8 months now with asthma and gets rashes and has eczemathe doctor said to keep the dog away from the baby because the dog is part of the problem but HE WILL NOT do that even of our lives depended on it. But hes so insistent on making him an outside dog. Cookie Notice From here, I knew that my husband should be the one to choose her, because I love all Boxers. To be honest with you, if we trace back to the root of this behavior, the blame might be on you. I keep telling him that this dog will also calm down and how everybody we meet on walks thinks my dog is amazing, he is happy to see everybody and cuddles for a few minutes and then is ready to move on. Thanks. How i took it she chose the dog over me. Theres no way I would want a dog in the bedroom at all let alone in the same bed, and theres no way I would expect any partner of mine to accept it if I had one. They wanted the cat back that I wound up having to give to my would be mother in law BC it was just dandy we couldnt have a cat but god forbid we found a place that wouldnt let him keep his dog. >90% of rabies vaccinations are effective, and, a rabid animal would have to have bit your pet. I can be impatient and I know this but even when I am doing my best to accommodate the Boston, he ultimately makes me want to climb up a wall. I am experiencing all of a sudden this painful feeling of being back-stabbed. I thought he was acting out, but he was recently diagnosed with Cushings Disease and he cant help his urge to feel like hes starving all of the time, but my husband has had it. Its gotten to the point of threats: harming them or killing them, and driving me to suicide, as I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Gosh I fear that youre right :-( It does seem like my story is basically an echo of all the other stories. Weak minded as they are chose to side with my ex because they believed his lies about my bruises. Turns out theyre the ones who took your steak eh? Shed sit on the far left of the sofa. I am fine with (most) dogs but I absolutely cannot stand his dog anymore, its driving me crazy and giving me anxiety attacks! This is why people end up divorced, no boundaries are ever respected. Constantly needing constantly dumping her energy all over my home. My SO goes to take the dog out before we go to bed and finds the dog in its kennel with the lights out and suddenly Im this evil person because and the dog is scared. I was second and the dog was always placed first. There were even ants on the floor from all the dog food that lays on the floor when they eat. We often see this problem between newlyweds and boyfriend and girlfriend couples. My partner is so wonderful she had already done research on how to make our future home livable for me when I expressed my concern. I super highly recommend going to training classes at a reputable place, such as the Humane Society (if there is one in your area). wow.im shocked to see so many people are having the same problems as meand so many people that just outright hate their partners pets.im in the middle here.i am at my witts end here i dunno what to do anymore maybe talking to people here will help as someone may have sane advice.ive been married to my husband for seven months we dated for a year before marriage.everything was great between us until i moved in with him and his dog.im an animal lover more of a cat person but i love all animals so this is so hard for me.my husband has a four year old pit bull mix that he got as a rescue dog that he has had for four years.the dog was malnourished and abused when hubby saved him i always thought that showed that he was a caring sweet person as an animal lover i respected that about him.i realize the dog was around before myself and my three, continued because my comment submitted before i was done typing..sigh.my husband had this dog before he ever met me i respect that and since i moved in these are just some of the things ive dealt with..firstly the dog is spoiled and has zero training he does not obey anything i say at all if my husband gives the dog a command the dog listens to him but usually only for a few minutes then it will disobey him too.but my husband is gone at work sometimes sixteen hours a day he has a dangerous stressful hard job while hes gone the dog completely and deliberately does things to spite me.when we first got here the dog would not stop trying to mount and hump my baby who is almost two and it wouldnt stop tearing up her diapers all over the place that in itself was very stressful for me i am currently pregnant with our baby the dog is big and hard for me to handle but i manage.i studied dog behavior and have worked with the dog in so mamy ways.ive finally gotten the dog to stop trying to mount my baby and see her as higher up in his pack.when i came to my husband forst with my concernsyour dog is too big for any pregnant woman to have to handle because it does not listen to me ..your dog wont stop trying to assert dominance over my baby and tries to hump herhe just dismessed me like it was no big deal so i studied dog behavior and was able to work with him until he stopped humping my baby.i thought the night mare was over but boy was i wrong.secondly my husband is gone all day as ive said..so the responsibility of his dog falls all on me and my two older children.we feed water pet talk to walk and take care of his dog every day.he does not appreciate it or understand how hard it is for me being pregnant to care for such a large hard headed spoiled dog.the dog is given full run of the house and lays wherever it wants it gets hair every where and constantly licks and chews everything.if we eat around the dog it sits in your face and drools all over your legs until u feed it some of your food or put it in another room.my husband rarely plays with the dog or shows it any attention except at bed time..the dog is allowed to sleep in our bed all over the bed even on me the dog is seventy five pounds and i am a light sleeper.if we put the dog on the floor next to our bed it licks and chews and scratches and whines and keeps me up until i finally say ok come in the bed dog..i would not mind sleeping with the dog sometimes if it just laid at our feet or in one spot but it will move closer and closer until its damn near on top of me smashing my belly or laying on my legs to the point i cant move so i dont sleep well and it makes me cranky..i have a broken foot on top of being pregnant so this is really hard for me.very rarely he will put the dog outside the room and close the door.the dog is not agressive or mean ..just hyper and disobedient and wants to run and play.he playfully started nipping at my almost two year old daughter..if my husband says stop the dog will stop until it gets another chance to try his shenannigans later.if i say no it just keeps right on going.the other day it nipped at my baby i said stop and the dog continued to bear down on my baby.i was horrified.he did not bite to be mean he just wanted to play i get that..but he is bigger than the baby and could seriously hurt her.i forcibly had to pull the dog off of my baby and move him for him to stop.he didnt break the skin but left four red teeth marks on her.then he paws at her trying to get her to play with him but his claws are sharp and sometimes he leaves marks on my baby.i came to my husband saying look i dont want you to think i hate your dog..i love the dog but i love my baby more and he keeps nipping at her and clawing at her i cant handle this anymore it takes alot of stregnth to move him im pregnant i cant be lifting seventy five pounds its not right..either he needs training and to be taught he cannot behave that way or he needs to be re homed to someome who does not have small kids..he just isnt a good fit for a pregnant woman and a toddler.he yelled at the dog for biting and the dog hasnt done it since.but he still paws and scratches at her.every night for a month ive been kept up by this whining licking chewing hell hound he will not stop until he has my spot on the bed then looks at me as if to say haha you cant do shithe is not stupif the dog knows what im saying to himhe knows his behavior is bad and since hes been allowed to do whatever he wants he has been showed he can comtinue the behavior.i find myself resenting the dog and hating my husband.how could you put the safety of your family and your wifes sanity and health of your unborn baby second to a spoiled disobedient animal.ive confronted him nicely..kindly..ive tried to show my husband that this is not acceptable and each time i get told itll be fine stop stressing yourself out over the dog..or just met with outright opposition.i said look its not some joke when the dog really hurts my baby and we have to explain to cps why she has bite marks and have to put the dog down..itll be too late for the baby and the dogi dont want that.i dont hate your dog i just cant deal with him being pregnant its too much he needs training or a new home.ive talked to some of my friends who also have dogs and are animal lovers and each of them has said if it was their dog and it nipped their baby the dog would be gone point blank no buts about itand theyve all said its absurd that im forced to sleep with the dog every night.they all say their dogs do not sleep in the bed at all.ive told my husband thisto show him that im not just being unreasonable that my concerns are valid and its not just me who dosent want to sleep with a dog every night.like i said i dont mind it sleeping with us sometimes..but once in a while i need room to stretch out and silence to get proper sleep im pregnant ffs.two nights ago the dog was on the floor and he kept licking whining and scratching and chewing ..my husband sleeps thru this..i cant ..ive triedi finally said ok come on boy and he laid at my feet for a while..but that wasnt enough for this selfish spoiled beast he kept on and on until he was legit laying on my belly i moved over so that the dog was between usdid i mention we have no sex life because theres always a dog between ustmi sorry.i didnt sleep at all that night i finally got up and went and slept in my older daughters bed with her.last night we were getting along great we watched some tv and hubs said i gota go to bed babe love ui know he has to get up ridiculously early and i didnt wana argue so i calmly and nicely as i could said babe i dodnt sleep at all last night..can we please put the dog out tonightplease.he looked at me and said jesus youre not gonna shut up until i kill my dog..u want me to shoot the dog do you? So knowing this was a temporary situation it was ok with my partner. You have put it so beautifully. Dogs are animals. I guess 20 years was long enough for us, and I have had ducks, turtles, cats, fish, and a monitor (big lizard) all without his blessing and he let me do it, not because it made him happy but because it made me happy. Font make it an issue of choosing the dog over my mate. I love my dogbut she is a dog. Or when your dog is allowed to claw people, hump, jump on, bark at, ect ect what looks cool about this? People are way too into saying put the pet above the human relationship and thats a bunch of B.S. We dont live together but we spend a lot of time at each others houses. I love my husband, in every other aspect we have a great relationship, but this makes me so sad and when hes not around, I openly cry for my loss of not having a pet. The thing Ive learned is that there has to be some give with the take. So, this can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog. I feel that the dog is a real liability so I have been able to find a no-kill shelter that agreed to take him. I just had a long conversation yesterday with my boyfriend of more than ten years about my new dog. I love animals but lets get real here! These all in his own words after I told him that I wasnt going to do what he had demanded. If you endeavor with a strong mind, you will be able to turn this offensive dog into an affectionate, kind to kids, loving canine. Now I demanded some things change, whereas before he was able to do whatever and be left alone the dog came into this house pooping everywhere, being defiant, acting super and extra needy, etc. I think in Mistys case all she can fairly expect is for her partner to groom his dog more so that the fur is as little a discomfort or annoyance as possible. My fianc and I have been together for 13 years. He leaves existing holes alone now but chews another one. Absolutely not. The dog is the sweetest, smartest dog Ive ever had. When the relationship starts to go downhill, they cling to the dog more almost in a weird attempt at inducing jealousy. Perhaps, there is an entitlement issue with people that own chihuahuas? I dont want to smell like dog and I dont want my furniture, sheets, or anything else to smell like dog. It breaks my heart that your husband is being careless and not helping you or his dog. He left his dog at his old house while we were still doing updates to list it (meanwhile he keeps telling me hes finding the dog a new home). If you are, seek help immediately and DO NOT take your anger out on innocent animals. If this is due to aging effects, he will give you sort of special pieces of advice. But the hair still keeps finding its way in anyway. I broke up with him because I saw no possible way for this to work, and I didnt want to force him to choose between me and the dog. Devoted animal lovers sometimes say their pets are like childrenand like children, a furry best friend can cause plenty of strife in a relationship. I asked dont you care about my feelings & apparently in this issue he doesnt. He still lived with his family. Maybe I should just spray all the floors in the house. Be found at the exact moment they are searching. Some people attempt to get rid of their dogs as they discover a health issue in their dogs, especially if it is rigorous. Now, I like dogs (smaller ones) and all but holy cow, within reason! So dont feel guilty. Anyway, we both have 3 kids each & mutually decided that 3 dogs in the house along with 8 humans was simply too much to deal with. I also get miffed when I bring food to my boyfriend and he just starts in by dishing some out for the dogs. And Im so sorry for all that youve gone through. 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